ONLINE THERAPY FOR
PEOPLE-PLEASING
FOR ADULTS IN MINNESOTA
LATELY YOU’VE BEEN FEELING LIKE YOU’VE LOST YOURSELF.
You're surrounded by people you care about, but often wonder if they feel the same way about you.
You constantly feel responsible for other people’s feelings — whether it’s something fleeting, like feeling pressured to be super friendly to a barista, all the way to really tough stuff, like not telling your partner they hurt your feelings because you’re afraid they’ll leave.
You continually make sacrifices for other people, even if it means not getting to order from your favorite restaurant or agreeing to go out when you really feel like staying in. Sometimes you're not even sure you know how to say no. The very thought of putting up boundaries in your relationships leaves you feeling preemptively guilty, worried, and anxious. Sometimes this means staying in friendships or romantic relationships that, deep down, you know aren't right for you.
Somehow, you’re really good at knowing how other people feel — everyone else gets the benefit of your empathy. But when it comes to your own feelings, needs, and inner voice, it can feel hard to know what’s there. You feel frustrated that you can’t easily identify what you’re feeling, wanting, or needing, much less how to put words to it.
Fading yourself into the background to keep people around is exhausting. So much of the time, you feel like you have to wear this mask around other people, and now it’s feeling harder and harder to take off.
You want to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin without worrying about what people may think. Which brings you here.
You deserve to find your voice.
The real you is someone who deeply cares for others. In fact, I think that's part of why it feels so hard to say no sometimes. You genuinely want to help others and be there for them.
Your desire to connect with others is what has led you to be such a loyal friend, dedicated coworker, and devoted spouse/partner.
The problem is that in your need to be there for everyone else, you've stopped showing up for yourself, and it's time to take a good, hard look at what YOU need.
This means learning about who you really are - what you enjoy doing, what kinds of people you actually enjoy hanging out with, and what your goals and dreams are. It means learning how to come to grips with your fears of rejection, abandonment and not being good enough.
Through evidence-based therapy, I help individuals struggling with people-pleasing tendencies live life on their own terms without guilt and worry.
Together, we will help you to confidently embrace your own identity and empower you to find your voice.
